Sharenting Guide & Family Policy

A guide to responsible sharing of your children's information online with a customizable family social media policy.

calendar_today March 2025
person Family IT Guy
folder Privacy

Understanding "Sharenting"

"Sharenting," a blend of "sharing" and "parenting," describes parents sharing information about their children on social media. While sharing family moments can help connect with loved ones, it creates a digital footprint for children without their consent.

This guide will help you understand the risks, make informed decisions, and create a family policy that balances sharing meaningful moments while protecting your children's digital privacy.

92%
of American children have an online presence by age 2
1,500+
photos of the average child shared online by age 5
13,000
pieces of content posted about the average child by age 13

Risks of Sharenting

Before developing your family sharing policy, it's important to understand the potential risks:

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Digital Permanence

Information shared online is difficult or impossible to completely remove

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Identity Theft and Fraud

Information shared about children can be used by criminals

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Safety and Security Concerns

Location information and routines can create physical safety risks

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Digital Kidnapping

Others may use your child's images without permission

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Future Psychological Impact

Children may feel their privacy was violated as they get older

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Data Mining and Commercial Exploitation

Information is collected and used for commercial purposes

The Sharenting Checklist

Before sharing content about your children online, consider this pre-sharing assessment checklist:

  1. Purpose

    Am I sharing this for a genuine reason, or just out of habit? What is the purpose of sharing this moment?

  2. Privacy Settings

    Have I used the most restrictive privacy settings appropriate for this content? Am I aware of who can see, share, and save this content?

  3. Permission

    For older children (4+), have I asked if they're comfortable with me sharing this? Have they given informed consent?

  4. Permanence

    Am I comfortable with this content potentially existing online indefinitely? How would I feel if this resurfaced in 5, 10, or 15 years?

  5. Personal Information

    Have I removed identifying details like locations, full names, birthdays, school names, and other personal information?

  6. Potential Future Impact

    Could this content negatively impact my child's future opportunities, relationships, or self-image?

  7. Perspective Shift

    Would I be comfortable if my parents had shared similar content about me? How would I feel if this content was about me instead?

  8. Other People's Children

    If other children appear in this content, do I have their parents' permission to share it?

  9. Alternative Sharing Methods

    Is there a more private way to share this with just the people who matter most to us?

  10. Content Type Considerations

    Is this content potentially embarrassing, sensitive, or revealing in ways that might make my child uncomfortable later?

Best Practices for Mindful Sharing

When you do choose to share content featuring your children, follow these guidelines:

shield Optimize Privacy Settings

tips_and_updates Privacy Setting Tips by Platform

Facebook

  • Use Custom Privacy settings to share only with specific friend lists
  • Disable facial recognition in Privacy Settings
  • Create a Private Group for family photo sharing
  • Regularly use Privacy Checkup to review settings

Instagram

  • Set your account to Private if sharing family content
  • Use Close Friends for more sensitive family updates
  • Disable "Add to Map" location features
  • Review tagged photos promptly and manage tags

Alternative Private Sharing Options

  • FamilyAlbum: Private photo-sharing app specifically for families
  • Tinybeans: Private journal app with controlled sharing options
  • Google Photos: Create and share private albums with specific people
  • Private messaging apps with end-to-end encryption

hide_source Limit Identifying Information

person Involve Children in Decisions

school Age-Appropriate Consent Guide

  • Ages 0-3: Parents make all sharing decisions, focusing on minimal sharing and maximum privacy
  • Ages 4-7: Begin asking simple permission: "Can I share this picture with grandma/our friends?"
  • Ages 8-12: More detailed conversations about audiences and potential implications
  • Ages 13+: Collaborative decision-making with increasing autonomy for teens

Remember: Even young children can express preferences about their images being shared. Watch for cues like discomfort with photos being taken or shown to others.

content_paste Consider Content Carefully

warning Content to Never Share

  • Bathing, toilet training, or partially clothed photos
  • Emotional distress moments (tantrums, crying)
  • Embarrassing incidents or behaviors
  • Medical treatments or health vulnerabilities
  • School report cards or academic struggles
  • Content that reveals specific routines, locations, or schedules
  • Photos of your child that you wouldn't want shared of yourself

groups Respecting Others' Children

Create Your Family Social Media Sharing Policy

Use this template to create a customized policy that works for your family. This can help establish consistent guidelines, set boundaries with extended family, and evolve your approach as your children grow.

1. Our Family's Sharing Philosophy

Define your overall approach to sharing about your children online.

Add any additional context about your family's philosophy:

2. Where We Share

Select which platforms and methods you'll use to share family content.

Platform-specific notes or policies:

3. What We Share

Define what types of content you will and won't share about your children.

Content we are comfortable sharing:

Content we will NOT share:

4. Privacy Protections

Define how you'll protect your children's privacy when sharing.

5. Consent Procedures

How will you involve your children in decisions about what to share?

At what age will you start asking for consent?

6. Extended Family Guidelines

What rules do you want other family members to follow regarding sharing pictures of your children?

7. Policy Review and Evolution

How and when will you review and update this policy?

Family Social Media Sharing Policy Template

1. Our Family's Sharing Philosophy
Our family follows a [minimal/selective/open] approach to sharing content about our children online. We believe in [additional context about your family's philosophy].

2. Where We Share
We will share family content on: [list platforms]
Platform-specific notes: [any specific approaches for individual platforms]

3. What We Share
Content we are comfortable sharing:
• [List types of content]

Content we will NOT share:
• Potentially embarrassing content
• School or activity locations
• Bathing or partially clothed photos
• Behavioral or emotional struggles
• [Any other content you decide not to share]

4. Privacy Protections
We protect our children's privacy by:
• Not sharing full names
• Not using location tagging
• Not revealing birth dates
• Not identifying schools
• Using restricted audience lists
• [Any other privacy protections]

5. Consent Procedures
We will [parents decide/ask first/child has final say] before sharing content.
We will begin asking for consent at age [age].
Additional consent procedures: [any specific approaches]

6. Extended Family Guidelines
Family members must:
• Ask permission before posting photos of our children
• Avoid tagging or including location information
• Use private settings only
• Honor removal requests immediately
• [Any other guidelines for family members]

7. Policy Review and Evolution
We will review this policy [annually/every 6 months/at child milestones].
Review notes: [specific details about how you'll evaluate and update]

insert_comment Talking to Family Members About Your Policy

Communicating your sharing preferences with family members can be challenging. Here are some tips:

Private Alternatives to Social Media Sharing

Consider these alternatives to traditional social media sharing that offer greater privacy control:

Digital Options

Non-Digital Alternatives

Helping Children Manage Their Digital Footprint

As children grow, help them understand and take control of their online presence:

For Young Children (Ages 4-8)

For Older Children (Ages 9-12)

For Teenagers (13+)